I think Gramps and Totosai fit more as in-laws because in-laws are ‘supposed’ to argue and they seem the type to want to argue a lot over everything.
Shippo, I think is more of the Sango/Kohaku family because then Shippo can adore Kagome. He can either have a childish crush on her, a sister bond with her, or she can adopt a motherly bond. It just gives you more room to work.
If Inuyasha is going to be eight then I think Rin should be about ten or eleven and then Sesshoumaru, Kagome, and Sango somewhere between the ages of 16-18. Personally, Sesshoumaru seems much older therefore he should be eighteen and Kagome/Sango seventeen.
Kohaku always seems about twelve or thirteen and Souta somewhere around ten or eleven with Rin. This way all the middle children are in Middle School, Shippo and Inuyasha (both around eight) are in Elementary, and then all the older siblings are in High School.
Well, that’s my opinion
I hope it helps! Happy writing!!!